Family of victim in alleged DUI crash speaks out

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SAN DIEGO – The family of one of the victims in last Friday’s alleged DUI crash spoke to Fox 5 about the tragedy and how they’re honoring the man’s memory.

Taylor Bednarski, 29, was one of three men killed in the crash on the connector from northbound I-805 to westbound State Route 52.
His sister, Raschelle Bednarski, spoke to Fox 5 one week after the tragedy.

Taylor BednarskiShe described Taylor as a great friend and brother, who loved life and had a passion for music and singing reggae. Inside their Clairemont Mesa home a reggae record spun on Taylor’s turntable, offering sounds of encouragement as she shared about his life.

“He was just my whole strength and he would just want me to be strong and he would want us to get through this together,” she said.

Raschelle Bednarski said her brother was “finally happy.” He was engaged to the love of his life, Meghan, and was planning a future.

“He was going to marry this beautiful girl and they were planning their family,” she said. “And he had so many things left to do.”

Authorities said William Cady, 25, was driving intoxicated the night of the crash. He had five friends inside his vehicle. The deputy district attorney said his friends asked him to slow down, but instead Cady hit the accelerator.

“At some point the defendant began accelerating the vehicle rapidly,” said Makenzie Harvey, Deputy District Attorney. “We have information from one of the surviving passengers that the companions, and the men inside the car asked the defendant to slow down. He declined. He said it was his car and we would drive it as fast as he wanted to.”

Raschelle Bednarski said that decision changed her families’ life forever.

“He murdered my brother. It wasn’t just an accident. They were begging him to slow down,” she said. “I don’t have a lot of room for anger in my heart, but I’ll make some for him.”

The crash also took the lives of Shon Gilliam, 23, and Jeffrey Becker, 35. Two others survived including Trevor Rodgers, who is also Raschelle’s best friend.

“It’s just a little bit of sunshine,” she said of her friend, who is still recovering in the hospital.

William Cady pleaded not guilty to charges of gross vehicular manslaughter while Intoxicated and DUI causing injury. He will be back in court later this month and the Bednarski family plans to be there.

Taylor’s mom, Sileen, was too upset to speak, but wrote this message about her son and the tragedy:

“My precious baby, the light of my life, is gone. The pain is unbearable on my heart and the hearts of every person who ever knew him. He was the pure essence of love and life. He shared his love with his music and love was in his soul. He was never ever a vengeful person, but he is telling me straight to my heart that the truth must be told. This was not a simple drunk driver losing control. This was intentional, not manslaughter, but murder. Will being angry as his five passengers and purposely slammed his foot on the gas, even after being begged to slow down. He commanded that he will drive the way he wants to and at 100 miles per hour my son and the others that lost their lives were murdered. Not only was he taken from his family, mom dad and sisters and friends, but more tragically stolen from having his whole life. He left a fiancé, dear Meghan, a girl who gave him so much love and happiness for his last year on this earth. He had huge plans that he will never be able to have come true. Losing Taylor is an unbearable hole in the hearts of each and every person he loved, the entire community. His motto was always ‘Go Big, Moms!’ and thank God we did. In the short 29 years we had, we were blessed to have him in our lives and he will forever live in our souls and hearts and this was never ever his time to be ripped from our lives and from living his own.”

The Bednarski family will continue living Taylor’s “Go Big!” motto in his honor.

14 comments

  • David Webster

    Sileen, Dan, Raschelle and Monic, Our pain is so great, Sileen we cry for you all. Taylor will live on in our hearts here on Kauai. Come heal, all of you, when you find it appropriate, to this beautiful, spiritual island of Kauai. Donna and I will do what we can to the trip as painless as possible. We love you and wish we could be there now but our time to be with you will come when it is needed. The greatest gift you can give to those who have passed before us is to let them live on in our hearts. Taylor will live in all of ours until we too make the transition, then he will be there to guide us. Aloha Sileen, Dan, Raschelle and Monic.

  • Adrienne Brown

    My heart breaks for you all. Being a part of MADD for years. I will never understand why this continues to happen. God be with you all.

  • ron

    Why do people still drink and drive? And why on earth would you let someone drive who has been drinking, let alone ride in the same car? WTF people? Sometimes you only get one major mistake.

      • lisa

        actually ron has a point. really. maby they were all good friends but if so why would the guy stomp the gas when his pals asked him to slow down?
        anyways how do u stop this idiot from not slowing down?? , imagine the horror, do you turn the key back ?throw into neutral? these are questions i'd like to know….the what ifs..
        someone pay someone inside to beat him once the conviction comes and it will.

        • david webster

          Taylor did not know the driver who was just really mad about something. He did not drink or even go into the said establishments so you all quit assuming you know everything, and if you don't the STFU! To Ron

  • Heatherette

    Raschelle, you are my heart and my love. My heart is so broken for you. Taylor was such an amazing man. I love you. What a great article. I am so glad people will get a chance to see what a great guy he was.

  • Wes

    It is funny that we except and write off such a "tragic event", but it was caused by a person who decided to drink and drive. In my eyes this is the same as murder, and they should be offered the same fate. Our society only gives a couple of years or probation for such a crime. I love our left wing democratic society that wants to forgive rapest, murders, child molesters, and drunks that kill people. MADD is nothing more then people who cry about lost children and seek no justice for fear of the public opinion. Maybe the cartels have it right, you take my son I take yours. If this happened more often people would take life judgement calls a little more seriously.

    • david

      Wea, shut up, you don't know. the driver was not drunk nor did they all know each other. How do you know when a sober driver goes nuts! I hope you don't have to die the same way as those boys! Ypu just made an ass of yourself. I loved Taylor like a nephew. His dad and mom are our dearest friends so back off!

  • yrusoblue

    So sorry for your family! My daughter lost her father in this accident so my heart is hurting with yours. I hope you & your family are doing as good as you possibly could under the circumstances. Praying for all of us involved!

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