32-year-old man to be adopted

SAN DIEGO – You don’t often hear of adults being adopted, but that’s exactly what’s happening to Mission Valley resident Maurice Griffin at age 32.

Maurice GriffinBorn in San Francisco and put up for adoption at the age of three – Griffin was placed in the foster care of Charles and Lisa Harris, along with their two biological sons.  Griffin said it was a very loving home, but one day he made an unusual request.

“I wanted to be treated like a real son.  Their sons got spanked and I didn’t,” said Griffin.

He said his request backfired when he told his social worker.

“I told her they were going to be spanking me. She told her superiors and her superiors told her I had to be taken out,” he said.

Griffin said two weeks later – and two months before he was to be adopted – he met with social workers who packed his things, put him in a car and took him away – without ever having the chance to say goodbye to the family he spent 10 years with.

He recalled the toll it took on him and his foster parents, who were left no choice but to give him up.

“They were threatened. They were going to have their own children taken away from them,” Griffin said, holding back tears.

For the next three years, Griffin bounced from foster home to foster home – more than a dozen of them – never fitting in and never wanting to.

“Basically, in my young mind, I had decided that if I acted out everywhere, they would put me back with my family,” said Griffin.

But that never happened. Griffin eventually went to college and then moved to San Diego for work.

About six years ago, Lisa Harris found Griffin through social media and he called her.

“She answered the phone and said ‘hi baby.’  I held onto her voice for so long,” he said. “I told her I had to call her back.  I couldn’t talk – very emotional for me.”

Griffin learned his foster father passed away. He and his foster mother met up and after years of frequent visits, Griffin told her he still wanted to be adopted and filed the paperwork.

“I filed on Valentine’s Day, because I wanted her to know she was my valentine,” he said.

Griffin will be legally adopted by his former foster mother Friday, March 15 at San Diego Juvenile Court.

23 comments

    • Guest

      Congrats to him and bless this family! Sorry you had to have your life ruined by yet another over zealous uneducated social worker. Good job staying strong dispite it

  • Laurie

    I can tell you that Maurice is one of 7 children, all were adopted out or given to a family member to be raised. Maurice is the only one out of 6 that ended up growing up in the system. Lisa Harris's family is the only family he thought as family his whole life except his siblings which he has recently meet a older sister and in a few weeks will be meeting his youngest sister for the first time. Thanks to social media. My heart goes out to him, as he deserves someone he can call his mommy.

  • Lacy

    What a most beautiful story. I makes my heart sing. Maurice you are a true success as a human being and I honor your mother for a love that never let go of you. The system sucks and I have been racking my brain about what we can do to help it get better. Maybe you can write a book about your life and also let people know how they can vote to change the system. What a story.

    • Maurice Griffin

      have you read my last comment Lacy? I would love to continue to help if you have any ideas please feel free to contact me. Thank you for your support ;-)

  • Guest

    It is a great story! Made me tear up reading the line where his mom says "hi baby" and it's too much for him at the moment. Glad the family is reunited once again!

  • Guest

    wow really, a great story? I disagree.

    He was happy, with a family, and they took him away from that. Other people need to stay out of strangers lives. If this family was physically abusing and leaving marks and scars on the child than ok, someone needs to save the child, however, a spanking when a child misbehaves is a form of discipline that has been around for a long time, and while I dont agree with that form of punishment, I dont think it warrants taking a child away from a loving home and parents who care to actually discipline. (which so many parents now days dont even bother to do, or they believe their children cant do any wrong). what makes this story worse is that he asked for it so he could feel like a real member being treated equally, rather than one getting special treatment.

    So happy story, no. Happy ending after being ripped out of the only family he knew, yes.

  • Guest

    Cudo's to the family and him!!

    Again I would like to say how sorry I am that your life was ruined by yet another one of these uneducated social workers. They ruin more lives then they help.

    Glad to know you had the fortitude and stgrength to stay the course no matter what these sleaze bag social workers did to you.

  • Guest

    Want to help children? Do Not Call A Social Worker. These folks are doing more harm to kids and families than all the pedophiles combined. They are worse for innocent famlies than the any gang out there.

    Thanks to them countless kids have been rapped and murdered. Check the stats folks. They are scary.

  • ALYCE

    THERE GOES TO SHOW YOU THAT WHAT GOD PUT TOGETHER MAN CAN'T TEAR IT APART. THIS IS A BLESSING FROM GOD IN SO WAYS. THIS IS WHAT YOU CALL LOVE BETWEEN A MOTHER AND SON SEPARATED BYSO MANY UNTIMELY YEARS WHERE THEY STILL K EEP
    SPECIAL BOND N THEIR HEARTS!!!

  • Maurice Griffin

    I would love to write a book about my story does anyone know what direction to point me in?
    i have had a few people contact me for documentaries and book ideas i was wondering if you would be interested in writing a book for me i have a very complicated story I was a ward of the court (orphan) from the age of three till i was eighteen years old at witch time I was shown literally to the door. i grew up in foster homes, group homes and even juvenile boot camp. i would like to shed some light on how the system raised me in a totally different world witch included physical, mental, emotional and for some sexual abuse then released me into world that might as well been alien. I was raised to survive in a hostel environment so when i turned eighteen i had no idea how to make it in society. by trial and error i would like to share my story to educate America on how we need to get these children proper training on how to transition from a life of living s a ward of the court (orphan) to to a society who does not understand them. my story will make people laugh ,cry, and become enraged. we can not continue to turn our backs on our children. they are released and then start a life that often ends up in jail prison on drugs or dead. but i can give hope and educate I feel god has had me on this path to help change this untold secret we have here in our country. please contact me if you or a trusted colleague would be interested?
    http://fox5sandiego.com/2013/03/13/san-diego-man-

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